As always, Elizabeth, a very cogent post, and a situation quite prevalent in audio salons as well as forums. Here in California wine country, your observations can be readily extended to wine snobs: if this $200 bottle doesn't taste good to you, well, you're wrong.
A pet peeve for your consideration: the conundrum of merging computer and audio technologies. Yes, so many benefits (e.g., finally excellent digital sound via such well-designed components as the BDP-2 and BDA-2), but so many hassles with so many products (thankfully, rarely Bryston's): incompatibilities, rapid obsolescence, mysterious glitches, feature creep, requisite tech expertise. It's certainly a Hobson's choice, for who would want to give up the benefits of high-res digital? Yet, there is a price for the rewards.
Cheerio,
Rich
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Whiney Napa Valley