Konut,
Great post.

I think the core of the problem is that in order to hear the differences a system (by system, I'm including every piece of electronics as well as the room) must have a certain minimum threshold of resolution in order to evaluate the differences
I totally agree. After having gone through a half dozen or so speakers in the last 2 years, some resolve much better than others. Even though one pair might have a really good even frequency response, and sound really good by most standards, some speakers, just don't have the clarity, speed, low level resolution, and low distortion to resolve the minute differences that might exist in components. I would also add room acoustics and low noise floor as very important factors as well.
The other problem is that it takes a certain amount of experienced listening to discern differences. The analytical listener is different from the casual listener is different from the musical listener. Knowing what to listen for is not a inborn sense. It is a learned behavior. It takes practice listening to a variety of equipment in a variety of situations. We don't all have the same sense of hearing accuety either. So its not a big surprise that this topic is so divisive and frought with potholes along the aural highway.
Yup. Couldn't agree more. Sometimes you need a lot of exposure to find all the sonic indicators to be able to hear a difference. Overall, on the surface things might sound the same between two components, but it may take many hours of casual, and alternately intensely focused listening to be able to discern differences. I also suspect that the more components in the signal chain can throw a monkey wrench into the equation. Not sure, but, it might actually work in favor of hearing differences, due to impedance and so forth, or maybe a minimalist setup highlights it better. There is no doubt, our levels of perception will get better with more exposure to listening.
I've pointed out things to seasoned audiophiles that they never heard before. Buzzes, squeaks, rattles, thump's, that are embedded in recordings, only because in all my years of recording, that was something I had to listen for when recording, so that we could go back in a remove these anomalies, because when you're dealing with multitracking, all these things add up, and add to noisefloor. So it's hardwired in my brain to listen in that way. Not everybody does. But when you point it out to someone, they usually comment that they can't believe they had never noticed that before. Sometimes they are annoyed because now it stands out like a sore thumb everytime they listen from that time forward.

Another thing is that how MUCH of a difference will different cables make? Source components, generally, are a much greater determanent of SQ than cables. Cables are a, relatively, minor piece of the puzzle. But to those of us who are interested in the best SQ, still an important piece. Lastly, there are a lot of us who are hesitant to spend a unproportionally large amount of cash on cables relative to the rest of our systems.
Having said all that, I haven't yet had a eureka moment with cables yet. I have by no means done exhaustive comparisons, and my system components have been changing too frequently. So for the moment the jury is still out for me. Honestly, I fear it might actually upset me if I start hearing easily noticeable differences in IC's, PC's, and SC's.

I have more than enough things in my life to agonize, and obsess over.

Cheers