This is a very sore point in actively amped audio systems today. There are basically NO active crossovers that are all of the above: transparent, very flexible in x-over points/slope adjustments on-the-fly(Marchand's Achilles' heel), and are priced reasonably.
This is sad b/c most of the cheap "pro" type of active analogue x-overs are not close to transparent and b/c the "pro" digital x-overs that convert A->D->A are not desirable.
The nice x-overs that do purely digital x-over without ADA conversion require a lot of commitment and $$$ to build a dedicated system, usually digitally actively tri-amped, around the digital X-over, i.e. TACT, DEQX. Did I mention $$$?
I still believe actively crossed systems are the way to go, however, so there's the dilemma. First, I would cross NHT, Paradigm, and similar units off the list. These simply do not belong in the same ballpark as the nice ones. In general, I would avoid the ones that have continuously variable volume and/or x-over knobs that use cheap pots for these important functions. These should only be used if used for bass only, rolling off the satelites some other way, not going through the x-over.
Krell class-A active x-over is nice, but at the high price they charge, you might as well get a DEQX. The Bryston, surprisingly, competes well with the Krell at much less price b/c it uses discrete resistors to change volume and x-over point/slope instead of continuous pots. It also has a sledgehammer PS compared to most others (well...except the Krell).
Bryston's weaknesses. B/c they use discrete resistors, the x-over points are kind of far apart. You should look at the "sub" and "standard" model and choose the one that offers the x-over points you have in mind. Bryston also prefers to adjust level on the treble portion! not the bass like others. They say this way sounds better, but I hate it. I'd much rather lose transparency in the bass than treble with volume control. Any time I use the level control, even with discrete resistors, I can hear the loss of transparency.
I get around this by leaving the level control at 0dB and use an EVS Ultimate Nude attentuators to match levels of treble and bass amps, which is far more transparent than level control of Bryston. Used this way, Bryston is superbly transparent with power and slam unmatched by others IMHO.