Why not use the speaker level inn on the subwoofer? See the REL netsite for details, in this way the sub receives the exact same signal as the main speakers do. Just run an extra set of cables from the speaker posts or from the speakers to the sub.
Let your main speakers run as they do now, full-range and let the sub add weight at your preferred frequence, with some larger speakers you will need a very low frequency and not all subs have settings that low.
For instance, Stereophile used an REL Strata III sub with small Aerial 5 speakers and found a setting of 27 hz to be perfect.
For a beginners setup, put the subwoofer in your preferred listening position and crawl along the floor to find the place where you have the highest gain, this is the place the sub sub should be placed, normally its in a corner with the subs driver facing inward in the room. I mean, if you place the sub in your right front corner, the subs driver should face to the left. (For those subs that do not have a driver facing down into the floor.)