4-6 cups a day, 20-30 uses per filter. I use 2 filters and alternate so 1 always gets the time to completely dry out. I simply rinse in hot water after each use and let dry on the stainless steel dish rack.
I would simply recommend that you try "mining" a filter til it's good n' brown and try doing a cup comparison with a clean filter, say a 1/2 cup with each filter, and see for yourself if you can detect a difference. I wouldn't be surprised at all if you find that the "mined" filter gives you the better flavor.
My personal feeling is the browner the paper gets, the less paper taste you'll get. Call it a "gut" feeling.
I'd be curious to hear what you come up with if you decide to "mine" like mine.
edit: I do agree wih Phil tho, I've never thrown out a filter from it's failure. But once it starts looking like my toilet paper on a "good day", I figure it's time for a new one. And before you ask, no, I don't "mine" my toilet paper too. Cheers,
Robin