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Get her the bike and some roses and you will be all set.....
http://www.marinbikes.com/2009_html/us/spec_pageLocal.php?serialnum=916We went for a family bike ride the other day and my wife commented on how heavy her bike was compared to mine or our daughter's (which made it tough biking for her). Her bike is a Costco job from more than 10 years ago and it's heavy. I bet hers weighs over 35 lb when both mine and my daughter's are under 25 lb. Anyway, I bought the above Marin leisure bike when REI Outlet was offering a 20% off coupon. With the outlet price (year end closeout) and coupon, I got it for less than half the list price. It's now in the local store for me to pick up.Big question: Would it be alright for me to package this as an anniversary gift? Or should I get something else for anniversary? You know how you are not supposed to comment on your wife's weight (even if she asks) or give her exercise equipment. Would this fall in that category?
I've learned it is usually a mistake to give my wife a birthday or anniversary present that is either "practical" or, worse, something I might have bought for myself if I could justify it (they aren't stupid - they usually smoke out hidden motives pretty quickly - even if you haven't faced up to it yourself). I'd just give her the bike and tell her it's so she can enjoy your family bike outings more. Give her flowers and take her out to dinner on your anniversary.
My wife is in your camp. Practical gifts are a no-no.
That card idea is brilliant.I think my wife is slowly changing her mind about gifts. I mean, how many non-practical gifts can one buy in a marriage? But I'm not sure I'd attempt a practical gift for an anniversary. I'm still trying to convince her that the 10 year gift should be audio gear.
As a woman and a wife, if she has hinted she wants a lighter, better bike, then it should be fine as an anniversary gift. However, what's the anniversary mark? (5 yrs 10 yrs etc) If it's in the first 5 years it may be a little disappointing to her and the other guys are right, it definitely depends on how you package it. I would recommend taking the day off and asking her to meet you somewhere you can actually use the bikes to take a ride, that day. Make it a surprise, by having a friend haul her new, lighter bike to the site, so she has no idea what's coming. Take the leisurely break-in ride together and afterwards go home, shower, and let her get dolled up for an evening out. Or do it in reverse order, take her out the night before and tell her you have a surprise for her in the morning. Flowers never go wrong. Whatever you do, do not "sell it" as an exercise gift, that is the worst possible thing you can do. We women expect you to think we can constantly improve on ourselves, our weight, our hair, the things we do. We really just want to be appreciated for who we are, and if you make us feel like we look like a million bucks, that's a bonus! Whatever you do, you know her best, and I'm sure she'll appreciate the gift, she might just enjoy it that much more if you "package" it right!
We give no gifts to one another anymore...for B'days or Christmas....gave that up 15 years ago. So much stress thinking about it and you end up not getting it right as much as you do. It all comes from the same financial piss-pot now...so we get what we need as we go along. Fortunately, we're not for want of anything material, nor do we need baubles or care for the attention it might attract. If we need something - we buy it - if it's a good deal and we can justify somehow in our lives John
