Thanks everyone for all of the great replies. So many choices, so little time......sigh...
Geesh... I think the best thing for me to do is to get some tube cages and call it a day. I think Mike Sanders will sell em to me for a reasonable price...

I am looking to make my system more kid friendy (as my 3 year old can start the whole thing up and get a CD playing on his own), and tube cages would appear to do the job. All other things being equal, as long as the kids can't get to the tubes, are tubes/chips/solid state all equally safe? Or are there other dangers I need to take into account?
Even if that is a solution,the thought of having a whole bunch of different gear come through my system is rather enticing.....
Buying new has the advantage of being able to audition in home and then return. I would stick with companies that offer this policy, depending on price. I can budget up to $2500 for this endeavor if I choose to go down that road, but I am not going to spend that much if I dont have to.
I think I will look into gear at various price points, all the way up to my limit (MusicHall A25.2, Creek5350, Odyssey stuff, RWA, Pass, etc ). I will also check out some of the kits offered by AudioSector, Ska Audio, etc.
Looks like I am in for a long journey. Short of ordering online and listening in my home, my choices to audition gear are pretty limited. Do others find themselves in the same boat? I dont have the time to attend shows, and what is available in Indianapolis to audition is very limited ( although Odyssey is here ). But then I am not hearing the equipment in my home with my other equipment, so what's the use?
I can see how folks end up on the equipment merri-go-round.
Thanks again for all of the discussion, its very interesting.