Repeat one more time.....
Balanced offers no benefit as far as audiophile is concerned.
You mostly got this right, but the statement "Balanced offers no benefit as far as audiophile is concerned" is in my opinion flat out wrong, and your own reasoning helps to explain why. If the audiophile is keeping his/her equipment seperated (amp between speakers, preamp back along wall somewhere out of the noise/vibration path), runnning balanced, especially with a 5 or 6m cable run, can have audible benefits for all the reasons you stated - reduction of hum and noise, and the benefits of differential noise reduction. Pass Labs equipment for example, when connected fully balanced, is utterly transparent and noise free, even with 6m or more interconnects. I would agree that in a system with short cable runs, balanced isn't doing anything much for you and you likely won't hear any difference switching from balanced to single ended cables, other than the +6dB gain with balanced.
I would certainly not make the claim that balanced always sounds better than single ended either. Many companies derive a "balanced" input or output by just throwing a phase splitter onto the circuit board, which doesn't result in a truly balanced design, it only allows one to plug XLR's into the box (some companies save themselves the .30 or so on the phase splitter and just wire the XLR to the RCA internally, the "-" signal ends up doing nothing). In any case you have to listen for yourself. If I was making the decision to run balanced, it would be based on whether I needed to seperate my pre and power amp with a significant cable run, say 4m or more, and then I might consider going balanced.
While its from a company that only makes balanced equipment, and would have you believe balanced is the only way to go (so read with grain of salt) the following is still a good read on balanced:
http://www.balanced.com/faq/balanced.htmlAlso, read Pass Labs patents on super symmetry, very informative, as are all Nelson Pass's white papers on amplifier design.
Lastly, as stated, using XLR cables alone doesn't always reduce hum in a large sound system. Different chassis ground conditions even in a professional sound system with long cable runs can still cause hum issues (from experience setting up literally hundreds of band gigs).