Hi Pl,
I think Julian nailed it.
I would certainly try setting the room up on the long wall if you can.
Place the speakers at least 8-9 feet apart with the rear of the speaker 1 foot off the front wall.
You can place your listening chair/sofa within 6-10 inches of the back wall as long as you have one or two 24x48x3 pyramid or wedge acoustic foam panels right behind your head.
These will pretty much dampen or absorb most of the major reflections and acoustic hash.
Bass should be rather strong and you will have a soundstage to die for.
Julian's idea of staggering the books was exactly what I thought of earlier today when I saw your post. It might look a little strange but it is a cheap diffuser.
I would also place two of the same size acoustic foam panels directly in front of you almost like a movie screen (at least for serious listening)
I would also try converging the RM40s directly on axis and take a peak at my "Sonic Director" tweak, I posted recently to help the midbass blending at nearfield.
I would also use Big B's suggestion of starting at 12 noon on the pots.
I have a feeling you will like the way this sounds and it will probably smooth out most of your other problems.
Now initially it will feel like the speakers are too far apart and way to close,

but wait until you have them converged and are sitting in the sweet spot.
If it is too boomy, move the couch out another 6" or more until the boom is gone.
You should, with this set up, have a center image that will totally deny reality. You and all your friends will swear that when they/you are in the sweet spot that a center speaker is hidden behind the books or the acoustic foam directly in front of you.
I'll e-mail you privately with a tweak that will help you get lazer precision in the convergence.
For aesthetic purposes you might find tacking some heavy velvet over the acoustic foam is attractive or just the heavy velvet itself may be adequate over the books when you are facing it from the sweet seat.
Even if just for "shits and giggles"

as the brits say (don't they?) it could be an interesting set up.
If you can try it (I know it might be less pelaesing to the SO) let us know how it works for you.
