Sorry for not keeping up with this thread earlier - vacation (twill make a note in Klaus's thread in a minute), sick, and work. I finally "settled" (guess its not a compromise...) on the following:
1. Remote
2. HT Bypass on the Tape Monitor, for the reasons described by Randog. I like the operation separate from the normal inputs. It's easier to keep the HT loop on another switch from the normal inputs, both in my thought and in trying to explain to another person. The tape out to provide signal from any input on the two-channel pre to the AVR (here's blasphemy for some - I could process the CD player into 5-channel sound). And I find a certain symmetry in the loop out and loop in being unity gain which appeals to my sense of elegance in simplicity.
3. Will want the second set of outputs (lowest priority). Not using it in my current config, but it would allow some experimentation with subs in different configurations then just off a crossover (either the AVR/HT Pre or an external crossover), or perhaps a second amp/speaker set (although some other control may be required to match levels).
Edward, I was thinking about it and I think I prefer the name "Tempest HT." over "Tempest Extreme."

(or perhaps Tempest HT2?") I think it better fits their naming schema (i.e., "Stratos HT3") and describes what the changes really are.
Randog, whaddya think? Have you sent yours in yet?
So, it's sorta ordered - in the queue, but no money has exchanged hands yet. Now I have to play the patience-game. Heavy business and summer vacations mean this is going to take a while.
enjoy,