build a mbow1 and turn it sideways
I think the MBOW1 is a fabulous smaller speaker and a very wise choice for HT, but....no, don't turn it sideways. Maintain an upright orientation per the Tomlinson Holman Experiment specifications (THX). The phase situation is better with an upright orientation. To keep the same cabinet volume, build the cabinet deeper or wider.
If you wish to use the 1801 for center, I also recommend keeping the drivers upright and re-shaping the cabinet.
Oh, the MBOW1 is also extremely close to the 1801 with regard to voicing. I a/b tested a pair with a simple Diana Krall Jazz track, and was very surprised. They are very similar, and I see no problem using a center MBOW1 and L/R 1801b speakers.
-have Dennis design a wider, perhaps mtm with the same speakers to somewhat timber match the 1801's
No, and a sideways mounted MTM conveys the antithesis of good engineering

. I don't know what marketing department started this trend, but IMO they should be awarded a huge sum of $$ for selling a lie. The midrange/woofer drivers in a sideways MTM have significant cancellations when moving off axis to the left/right. I do find them audible and will not purvey such a product. I believe Dennis will agree. I also find it deplorable that any respectable hifi company would sell this. It is wrong, wrong, wrong

. But...

the marketing department thought that appearance was more important than sound quality. Sadly

the markting department was and is correct.
Again, the original Tomlinson Holman Experiment (THX) specified a vertical center channel speaker. This makes good sense and IS good engineering.
-take a shot in the dark and build another diy kit from GR or Selah or someone and hope it matches enough for HT. This selah would work size wise and it uses Seas drivers, but a ribbon tweeter: http://www.selahaudio.com/id14.html and it is 4 ohm, my system
I don't recommend this, but can't fully explain the variables. My ears believe that the tweeter (not the woofer) is more important for matching, but... this is from 2 speakers (MBOW1 and 1801) designed by the same Dennis Murphy. There certainly are difference in voicing among different crossovers, and THIS could be controlling variable. Hmmmm, thinking... both Jim Salk and I found the 1801 and Veracity 2-way to sound extremely similar. Jim's Veracity 2 way uses a good Arum Cantus ribbon and the W18EX (slightly more sensitivity and less bass reach). I must also offer that I think that Jim's ribbon tweeter is a good ribbon tweeter.
-take a shot in the dark and buy a commercial speaker and home it is timber matched enough to the 1801's
This would be a VERY poor idea. The likelihood of finding something that is close in quality and tonality is almost nil. But, the sonics of the Accuton driver are very similar to the 1801, and I believe the quality of the Kharma speakers is very good overall. This unit has the midrange driver immediately below the tweeter to reduce phase problems :
http://www.kharma.com/_images/products/exquisite/centre.jpg . Unfortunately, it has a different tweeter and will likely have different voicing than the 1801.
I recommend you built a single MBOW1 to get a "taste" of how it sounds. I believe you will be surprised and find it very capable. I know of a few guys who use a MBOW1 or CAOW1 for L/R speakers in very decent 2 channel systems.
You should probably read my comments here too:
http://www.ellisaudio.com/cc.htmI hope reading this wasn't too arduous.
I also apologize if I offended anyone working in an MTM center channel marketing department. But, please consider that my comments actually offer very laudable praise for being able to successfully sell a very questionable product

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Dave