Randog,
I have a very similar setup to Steve (jcoat) with two xtremes, two Vandersteen 3A signatures and two 2WQ subs, so perhaps I can answer as well.

These could possibly be a nice ticket to a 2-channel sub that could double at HT duties instead of the other way around, eh?
While these are very musical subs, they aren't really designed for HT use. They really don't move enough air for HT type explosions and such. Vandersteen does make a HT sub, the V2W but I havn't heard one and therefore can't comment on it.
I would really like to see a review on this sub.
Vandersteen's site has links to three of them.
http://www.vandersteen.com/pages/prodrev.htmAs described in the link provided above by speedcenter, the high pass filter is just a single capacitor inserted between the preamp and the power amps. The capacitor value is calculated based on the amplifiers input impedance. In the case of the Stratos (xtreme's included) this is 18k ohms. I have measured it on three different amps and it's always been within a few hundred ohms of this value. For a 75hz filter you would need a .12uF cap. If you want to change the frequency, you can change the cap value. I am currently crossing mine over around 60hz (.15uF).
If the thought of putting a single, high quality cap in front of your amp offends you, consider that an active crossover is akin to adding another preamp (or two) into the signal path.
As for how well the subs work with the xtreme's, they are very happy together.

They present a very benign load to the amp, so they are not affected much by things like the amp's damping factor. Because of the adjustable Q, it's (IMO) easy to blend them in with your main speakers. At least that is the case with a pair. I haven't ever tried it with just one.
One caveat, if you want major bass slam, these may not be the subs for you. The do produce a lot of clean, musical bass and are quite punchy but they won't move as much air as say a pair of VMPS subs will.
Mike