Hey JLM,
First, sorry about losing your son, that must be devastating. >.<
I am in my 50's, in the NorCal Sacramento area.
Ive been into HiFi for many years, my current system is Dynaudio S5.4 mains, Pass X250.8 amp, Simaudio P8 Pre, Aurender ACS10 music server, and Denafrips Venus II 12th DAC.