This is the sort of info I'm looking for. I want figure out how to set things up and how to compare the sound to make sure I'm just not missing something. Thank you for taking the time and for the encouragement.
No problem. Take your time and don't get too worked up.
As some of the previous posters said, I would also look at better sources other than Sonos. While I haven't tried the Sonos, I have tried similar devices like Apple TV, PS3, IPTV box, Samsung TV and their optical outs. Honestly, not the best thing to feed your BDA with. If you have a Mac, I can definitely help you out with various softwares that will provide really good quality. The best option would be trying a BDP-1/2 outputting via AES into your BDA-2...This time I can guarantee you that you'll hear a noticeable difference in sound between the Sonos and BDP-1/2.
If you can use a computer program (Foobar2000 / Jriver / Audirvana Plus) in the meantime and download a few (5-6) albums in lossless quality of various material and genre. Hopefully all the albums have some kind of vocals. I use hip-hop, jazz, rap, pop, soundtrack music. This music serves two purposes: mid-range and bass.
I've found with good pre-amps and other equipment that can maintain signal integrity, the deep bass sounds more bold and really holds on with impact and doesn't get loose. The vocals are the most telling about the system as it's the place where humans are the most sensitive in hearing differences. I am not going to get into the evolution of why and how that developed...but trust me. Pay attention to vocals. It's a cheat code in assessing gear. Listen for transparency, texture, where the vocals float in the mix. Listen for the attack, trails, reverbs on drums/bass and vocals.
The reason why I said download music is because I have found the best sound quality comes from local file playback, especially when the device or software can pre-load the music in advance and thus avoiding real time conversion (which is good for the sound). I can do this on Audirvana Plus on Mac and with BDP-1/2 players. The streaming coming from a device like Sonos and then through optical isn't something I'd use for serious testing.
The file format should be something lossless. FLAC or WAV works well. I personally try to run everything WAV when possible.
Also, a whole another thing to consider is speaker placement and room treatment. I'm not sure if you have room treatment? That would make your system sound exceptional. Also, speaker placement can actually be more trickier than one might imagine. If you can post a pic, I and others can definitely help you out.
Out of the several speaker/monitor placement manuals and books I've read, this one by Genelec seems the most straight-forward with lot of important concepts that absolutely must not be ignored.
http://www.genelec.com/sites/default/files/media/Studio%20monitors/Catalogues/genelec_monitor_setup_guide_2015.pdfRead this thoroughly and you just might pick up one or two new things that you might have not known before. There is a lot of material here to digest here. Work at your own pace and I'm CERTAIN by the end you'll have a system that sounds a lot better than it does now. I personally love to do free tweaks based on knowledge that can drastically improve my experience rather than throwing money at the problem.