I'd like to point out, that I'm not trying to blame you in any way!
The first stage can be connected to the cartridge (via XLR) with 24k resistors on each leg to ground. That would satisfy your balanced requirements.
Yes, but "can be connected" and "is connected" are different things. The entry stage now is connected as single-end to balanced convertor and is not entirely balanced. But I understand, that this can be mended easily.
Connecting one leg of the cartridge to ground, you end up with exactly the SAME differential voltage at the grids. Output differential voltage is the same in both cases. Nothing is halved.
I hope I read this correctly that output differential voltage is the same after the first stage. But at the output we have not differential voltage, but the same single ended: the Polarity switch connects one or the other half of the output stage, so at the output we have only half the available signal.
Looking at the schematic - the only common load for balanced signal is C13, R35, R98. Then, the last stage technically is a balanced one, but its load is not balanced at all. Well... I should admit that this can also be easily mended by connecting output to both C10 and C17 instead of either C10 or C17 and the ground as you correctly mentioned:
The outputs can be connected to XLR using both polarities (V3a & V3b). The circuit is indeed fully balanced. And as I was hoping to explain, only the RCA connectors are single-ended.
The only thing I cannot agree to: in the current design the load is connected single-ended, not RCA and this makes the balanced good side useless.
Also, if I need to be technically articulate, the B+ and B- power supplies are fully balanced too.
Well... Technically speaking I can't catch what does this mean? Of course it is bipolar (every bipolar power supply is balanced?)! But what good is it to the design?