To determine whether it is gear or room related, you gotta do one of the following:
(1) start switching gear in and out to identify the culprit, or
(2) treat the room.
(1) is a process of elimination approach....touching all the bases....a methodical and logical approach.
If you try lots of different gear, and the problem remains regardless of what
you do with gear, you can be sure it is the room.
Unfortunately, this is time consuming and burdensome, but it wil tell you for sure
where the problem lies. You will learn lots in the process. And if trying different gear
thrills you the way it does most, you will have fun in the process. An added benefit is
you just may improve your system and get it more to your liking. If you shop wisely on
AG, no additional monies are needed, and no financial cost need be incurred.
Just the cost of time and effort.
Under this approach, I would start with the speakers first.
I have never cared for any type of metal tweeter.
In the long run, they always give the fatigue that you complain of.
I suggest you consider a more forgiving, musical, and warm speaker:
Spendor, Silverline, Meadowlark, Proac, Soliloquy, Sonus Faber, Vienna Acoustics, etc.
I have owned the first 3, and personally enjoy their presentation and sonic
flavors. I include the others based on reputation.
Lots of offerings to choose from on AG.
Alternatively, you could try treating the room first.
If you do it right....cover all the bases....and the problem remains,
then you know that the gear needs addressing.
But any money and time spent on tuning the room is never wasted.
It will pay dividends with any system. So even if it doesn't completely
solve your current problem, it is still a worthwhile exercise and expenditure.
I know I offer nothing specific here...just general guidelines to zero in on the problem.
Problem could lie anywhere. Only way to locate it is as I suggest.
Everything else is guesswork.
Good luck....I've been there!