So this is what it feels like to come out of retirement?
To answer the original poster:
If you find that a system's musical presentation lacks impact, balance, weight, dynamics, and live-ness etc. at lower levels, but is okay at higher levels, then one contributing factor could be explained by the loudness curves (ISO, Fletcher-Munson, etc.). That is, we are more sensitive to bass and treble when music is louder, meaning that at low listening levels we do not hear it as well, creating a tendency for... There are other factors, but this one is significant. Therefore, you may want to choose/design your system to sound as you like it at your preferred volume. Tone controls can also be a help, although I am not suggesting they be used, per se.
As for SETs and 91dB speakers, well, many folks with similar priorities to yours could quite happily live with such a combination, especially those listening at lower levels. Would SE be more appropriate for you than a tripath or other lower (or higher) power digital amp? Probably. However, would SE be more appropriate than the trioded pentode PP or pentode PP? Well, it depends on the qualities of the amps, your musical preferences, presentation preferences etc. There is no definitive answer when asking relative and conceptual questions. However, I would suggest that you give SETs and other lowish power topologies a crack if you can do so at minimal risk. Also, read the opinions of experienced folks from all over - perhaps you will begin to build a picture (though that can take mucho time).
Caution:
There is a whole lot-o-opinion posted in this thread that does not fit with my experience/reading/study/practice. Read and consider the contents of the thread but please understand that there is no substitute for your own experiences in matters of subjectivity. This is especially the case when you are relatively new to a field and you have little context and base knowledge.
Hope this makes some sense - I did not have much time.
Edit: amended some typos and clarified some sentences.
Cheers
Raymond