Thanks Crimson and Itonkin,I did the reset all and yes the look for ipod is checked in preferences.I made some progress,silly me had it working as a guest on my network so I added it as a device.
Now the library name shows on the ipod's screen but a pop up screen says remote can't connect to your iTunes library , Check your network settings.Since I'm not exactly computer savy I'm not not sure what other settings I need to change.Any ideas?