I need some help, because I am now more confused than ever. I am in the market for new speakers, and have about $10,000 to spend, more or less. I am looking for the most "realistic", "true-to-life", "you-are-there", quality speaker there is, at that price. But the sheer number of speaker companies, speaker technologies, and speakers out there is mystifying, stupefying, and bewildering, so my search has been extremely confusing.
Well, if I were to pick the worst possible time to buy speakers, it would be whilst confused. I'd recommend making a deal with yourself that you aren't going to buy new speakers for at least XX weeks, then take the time to sort things out, without the pressure you seem to be putting on yourself.
As has been noted, there are a lot of designs out there. Properly executed, each of them can sound excellent in its own way, and equally each of them can suck. But invariably, speaker manufacturers are forced to accept or make tradeoffs.
And, of course, we all have our preferences.
In my own case, I do NOT prefer horns or metal drivers in the midrange. I do prefer cones for bass. Having had various maggies for 30+ years, I have come to associate dipoles with both speed and a certain amount of pleasantness (though I really don't like the tradeoffs one tends to accept with maggies).
In my last speaker search, because I didn't want to use an external sub, I figured I would be after a 3-way system. And considering the above, I was probably looking at:
tweeter - fabric or ribbon
mid - carbon/paper cone or dipole
woofer - cone
a crossover of some sort, probably 1st or 4th order, matched to drivers
solid well constructed cabinets, preferrably good looking
(However, for a very long time electrostatics (Quads) were on my list because they sound gorgeous. I also seriously considered building full-rangers.)
Then I spent a few months researching what was available in my price range, communicating with owners, trying to understand the manufacturers' design philosophy and, once I made my short list, communicating with (some) manufacturers. Of course, this all needed to fit in my (smallish) room and match up with my electronics.
In the end, I had a short list of 4 speakers from 4 different companies. I did not listen to them because they were not all available locally, and I have found that listening in someone else's environment (especially a sales environment) is not a good predictor of sound in my home and tends to be somewhat stressful. I am reasonably certain that I would have been happy with any of them. The speakers I bought met all of my design considerations (plus a number of positive things I had not considered). The manufacturer was great to work with, and we worked out a few upgrades and adjustments. He also gave me a return guarantee. And I love the speakers. OK, maybe I'm just rationalizing my investment. But I think it's far more likely that my patient research paid off.
Good luck, and enjoy the journey.