All I know is that this conversation has me wondering whether I need to go for a psychological eval, lol. I already know my hearing is excellent cause it's only been a few years since it's been tested. (I have a degree in psych, and for sensory psych we went through all sorts of tests on one another....fun times!)
There are times when I hear differences among gear/speakers, and times when I don't. I wish I could be where you are and just not really notice them, cause it would probably save me a lot of money, but the fact is that I DO hear them. To my ears, room treatments and speakers make the most difference, but I can discern among other types of gear, too. The one time when I don't remember hearing a big difference was when I went from a Parasound 5-channel amp to some Outlaw Audio monoblocks. That was one change I could have done without cause I got the Parasound for a song. I also have yet to hear any difference in audio cables, whereas with video I did notice a difference when i picked up a nicer quality component cable from Blue Jeans Cables.
I dunno...I just fall back on what's important, and that's that you are enjoying your system and music, and I'm focused on doing the same
