thks guys,your advice will be taken.but,always a but...the new 9100 is $3200 with full blown mods,this Exemplar 3910 is $3100.is the modded denon better??? thks Pat

Better is open to personal opinion. The Denon plays more formats, including DVD-A and HDCD. Also, Secrets of Home Theater ranks the Denon 3910 as one of the best DVD players made. They rate the Sony 9100 as having some problems...primarily with video. If you don't care about video, DVD-A, or HDCD, then the Sony 9100 may be better for you.
I still would not recommend buying a new modified digital source.
2bigears, you have continually increased your budget along the way. If you can find another $2400, then the APL Denon 3910 will be the best you'll find, and if you decide to sell, your losses will be minimized. Furthermore, if you don't require inputs for several sources, then you can use the APL's amplifier direct function and eliminate (sell) your preamp. The APL also can be modified with a digital input so you can later use a hard drive based source. Thus far, the APL modified digital players hold their value better than any other modded players out there. The new APL NWO-1 costs $19,995.
Here's a link to a used APL Denon 3910 - $5500.
http://www.aplhifi.com/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=376If you'd rather stay at ~$3000, then the used Exemplar Denon 3910 or new Modwright 9100ES are your best bets. In the past, the Modwright Sony 999ES has had a warmer and more forgiving top end than the Exemplar Denon 3910. I have not heard the Modwright 9100ES.