I've got several suggestions (depending on your price range) as well as some personal experiences to share.
As to JoshKs recommendation of the Linkwitz Phoenix subs, I'm getting ready to try these in my system using the double stack, four 12" Peerless XLS 830500 per side. I'll give an update later. If your handy, this could be a great and comparatively inexpensive way to go.
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http://www.linkwitzlab.com/woofer3.htmI grew to respect dipoles 10 years ago when I couldn't get rid of boomy bass in my room from my Proac 3.5s. I later switched to Genesis V with eight 8" dipole drivers, and the bass was clear, clean and fast. Dipoles put out a figure-8 pattern and there's less room nodes excited. I've heard the Linkwitz subs in two systems and have been quite impressed. My present set-up (different speakers now) includes a Tact to digitally equalize the bass--an even better, but considerably more expensive, solution.
I'm presently using a pair of RBH 1010 (passive) subs, which are really good for both music and HT. If you can budget it, there's definite advantages to using outboard amp/crossover and getting the amp away from a furiously vibrating box. Each RBH has two 10" metal cone woofers which are both fast and extended. They replaced a pair of VBT (TBI) subs that are probably faster and slightly more musical but don't move as much air, so have less impact.
I still use a VBT in another room with their VBT200 sub amp and I'd highly recommend it for music. Maybe the best-integrating, reasonably-priced sub on the market w/o equalization. You can get one to start, and add another later as finances permit.
I've also found Echobuster bass busters to be of some help. Some rooms can really mess up bass frequencies (which will often then muddy up the mids).
Good luck.