I have struggled with the same subject regarding timing of the subs, I have two GR research open baffle subs mating with a pair of special audio M3's. I use REW and a calibrated mic. A lot of people are going with placing the subs right behind the listening position. Sounds crazy, if you look at the step response after shooting a measurement in REW, you can clearly see the frequencies that are smacking the mic at whatever particular time. There's latency factors galore, passive crossovers, digital enhancements etc etc. I'm about to set up my system again in a new room, I will definitely be playing around with this in particular. Obviously, bass frequencies take longer to produce than high frequencies. This is a simple matter of physics. I understand what your concerns are regarding timing. I also think our human hearing and integration play a large role. For instance, if you look at Danny's set up, his subs are behind his mains. I don't think phase control will offer the fix for this problem. If you have the means, try placing the subs much much closer to your listening position, perhaps behind your seated position. Again check the step response in REW it will let you know for certain which frequencies have the most latency. Again though going through a passive crossover you will see all sorts of delays. Custom audio is always a challenge and sometimes a let down. Digital might help in some forms and will create havoc in other ways. They're truly is no silver bullet for audiofiles unfortunately. Perhaps someday..