One of the things I find objectionable is this notion that audiophiles are not music lovers. That our gear takes precedence over just enjoying the music. For me the gear is the means to enjoying music I like at a realistic level. Oh yeah I have dreams mainly in the past of having a great audio setup. I have that now, even though it doesn't quite look how I imagined.
Right out of the gate I was listening to music. I remember mom playing 'How Much is that Doggy in the Window'. And then mom would play old time country tunes. My dad played the accordion and when we had family reunions his brothers all played together, it was a great time.
I also took music lessons for guitar, accordion and drums. I use to drum to music like Rush- All the World's Stage, etc. Sadly I never stuck with an instrument long enough to learn to play. I enjoyed listening to the stereo. It was what I did when I wasn't watching 2 channel TV, playing hockey or after shoveling snow.
For 20 years though I did not have a stereo, because the one I purchased out of high school got stolen. So I just had a boom box. I also was driving taxi for a living and listened to FM radio for long hours day in out. It was only after I had got a full-time job at a Casino that I invested in Home audio gear. From there it progess as I could afford to upgrade.
Twenty years into Home audio I feel I have reached the pinnacle of sound, it doesn't get any better. Last night I listened again to ELP- Show that Never Ends, remastered version for the millionth time and I still love it, only it seemed like the best I have ever heard it. I was at the concert!
So that's what it's all about being an audiophile. Don't tell me I'm not a music lover. I enjoy listening to music at a level I don't think non-audiophiles can comprehend.