Hmm, I read your question to say that you only want to connect a pre that happens to have 2 RCA outs. If that's the case I believe you can get an in-line RCA / XLR adaptor, i.e. no Y. Send 1 set of RCA outputs to your main amps and the other to the RCA/XLR adaptor and then on to the sub. You'll want to use the subs crossover and level to dial it in.
If however you're asking how to connect both your pre and a HT Receiver to the sub, which only has 1 input...I had the same issue. I tried to do the Y connection and developed a nasty ground loop. Simple solution: go buy a simple 2 way AV switch from Radio Shack for about $15. Run both lines into the "output side" of the switch and connect your sub to the "input" side. Works like a charm and you dont have to connect your speaker cables to the sub.