Hey Dave, I had the same amp an Adcom GFA535 driving my sub back then, actually I had two 535s one for the mains and one for the sub, I was using an active crossover(Marchand kit) with a pair of bookshelf speakers crossing over @70Hz to the sub. It sounded pretty good at sane volumes...my room size then was around 14x16x9.
Now I use my sub mainly for HT and have it powered by a bridged Adcom555. But I think for what you are using it for the 535 should be adequate, those 535 had a 3dB headroom.
No, the 12 woofer is not a high mass, heavy magnet beast, not sure what your criteria for that is but I think the application makes it sound much more superior than it looks. Now the megawoofer is a massive beast, with double stacked magnets. I think the coil of the original woofer was 2", and the magnet was about 5" across and about 1 1/4 thick, not whimpy by any standards.
Not sure what the controls are for since I never used the passive crossover.