Not to keep bringing this thread back to light, but I just wanted to say, I reread this multiple times yesterday, and ALOT of the gaps of my understanding have been filled. Even after me saying "I get it", "that makes total sense", but I was probably only 90% of the way there. So I apologize if I came off as a know it all, especially being surrounded by industry pros...
It's kinda funny, I had a good understanding of what each component does on it's own, but I was missing more of the big picture with some of it, and exactly how each component interacts with each other. I was just staring at my speakers/crossovers/amps last night imagining them working, and I feel like I really get it now. THANK YOU! I'm an engineer by trade (obviously not electrical) so I feel I have a very intuitive way of deductive reasoning to get to a valid solution of reality - and now I feel I have (for the most-ish part), at minimum, a very basic understanding of how everything is working in tandum. I even explained it all (more or less) to my wife in very basic ways, and she seemed to have a clear grasp on it. Which, that passes my "do I understand something test".
I apologize that I was simply getting hung-up with how Danny explained in his video. Which I think he simplified to to shut up a lot of the "not in the signal path" people. Which I can understand the confusion people may have in either camp. But it's in CLEARLY most definitely causing a direct affect on the signal. So... ehh, it depends on how you look at it lol.. So for the educational purposes of his video, it's just fine of course - and to the less deep dive people as myself, it leads them right to the correct conclusion, which at the end of the day is all that matters! Thanks again Danny, for all your wonderful videos!
What I feel like I was truly missing in the equation of parallel components (which... I hate the term parallel. I get it, it's between the parallel leads, but to me, it's more logical to call it the perpendicular part of the xover... I digress) is what Jaytor explained quite simply explained, and Norman really dove into:
Jaytor quote:
this distortion is being subtracted from the signal being delivered to the load, which means that the load will see the negative of distortion A which is essentially the same thing.Basically the capacitor in shunt/parallel is creating a negative (like a photo) of the signal that's being taken away, and everything that's wrong in that negative is wrong in the end picture. NICE! Once you know all of this with the other tidbits I didn't know on this thread, and really think about it with deductive reasoning, this is, yes - Fairly simple... and totally enthralling! My engineering skills are no doubt lacking the most in electronics, yet it's probably one of the most exciting for me.
I want to thank everyone again, for truly expanding my knowledge on this subject and being patient with me, even if I wasn't being patient with myself

I hope I didn't loose too much credibility on this site, and hope people understand I'm here to gain knowledge in this awesome/crazy/amazing hobby we call music reproduction! I also hope that some here can gain the knowledge I've learned at the sake of me exposing some of my gaps in knowledge. I'm more than happy to take a hit if someone else can glean even the smallest tidbit from this!
Again, thanks everyone!... Oh yeah, and buy the best components you can in the crossover, regardless of purpose!