Which model Fet Valve preamp do you have? If it is an EC chassis (big chassis with tone controls) then all you need to do is run it with the "mute" button pushed in which is actually a low gain function.
Changing tubes will not lower the gain, that is set by the feedback loop, not the open loop gain of the tube. The original Fet Valve preamp line circuit is not biased for a 12AT7 tube and you must stick with a 12AX7 tube in this application.
You could lower the gain on a Fet Valve SL preamp somewhat by installing a 1000 ohm resistor from output to ground on both channels at the output jacks, although this may limit the drive capability into the 33K input impedance of your Rotel amplifier.
Frank Van Alstine