Yes the silver solder is included in the kits.
As for the posts you are talking about we do not use posts.We wire direct from the connection to the driver or to the input from the terminal post on the cabinet.We do not use terminals on the crossover boards.

Here is a sample of the RA8 crossover layout.
Notice the wires come direct from the connection then wired to the driver no terminals to connect to.
You are always better to wire direct to the connection, as close to point to point connection the better.
In the kits you get a photo layout labling the layout.
Basicly we take a photo then with editor remove all the colour only the outling of the layout parts is left and we lable them.
Makes for assembly for anyone very easy to follow.
Lay out the parts the same way and you will be just fine.