I have a pair of ACI Titan II's with Merlin TSM-MX's and like the combination very much for both HT and music. The Titans are surprisingly quick and do their best not to screw up the musicality of the Merlins. It requires a lot of tuning and experimentation to get there though. Unless you have something like a TacT 2.2x it's pretty tough to do by ear and takes time and a lot of patience to get it right. Obviously you've had some difficulty with bass in your room, so you may have to look at DSP and/or treatments in any case. It sounds like the Titans are probably bigger than you'd want though.
There are, of course, many, many good options in floorstanders at the $5k level. Based on what you said, though, I'd certainly give the Reimers a listen, especially in terms of value. I have the monster Teton GS and there is no question they will produce bass that is much better integrated than most sub/sat situations (without DSP). I've heard Gregg Straley's smaller Reimer Wind River GS's (though no doubt modified and tweaked to the max) and, using his cables and Superphon gear, these had extraordinarily fast, tight, and well integrated bass for their modest size. This without any significant room treatments. I used the Teton GS's with no center on HT for awhile and loved them for that use. I never once thought I needed a sub for either movies or music.
If you're willing to wait, then no question, many of the custom builders on AC such as Salk HT3's are also terrific, using the TC Sounds woofer.
Good luck!