Pure QRD type diffusers do have a limit of how close one should sit based on the low limit of the diffuser in terms of frequency. BAD panels are a different type, not QRD. We have something similar with our Scatter plate option and it does not have the distance limit.
The distance from either me or the speakers is my issue - small room, gobs of room gain, tons of reflections, long decay times.
As I tamed down the reflections and decay times, it also effected the high end - too much absorption. But having less absorption, my decay times went back up. So something like the Scatter Plate or the RPG BAD in front of an absorber (244's in my case) kept the decay times down, but helped bring back the highs.
I tried to buy just the scatter plate from you/GIK but they are not available unless I buy a panel to go with it. Since I already own a bunch of 244's I did not need any more panels.
The one thing I have found with diffusion at the side reflections is that it is more a function of how good the off axis power response is on the speaker one is using. If not good (and many expensive speakers are not terribly good) then absorption is a better answer IMO.
I have tried both absorption/diffusion at first reflections, and in my room and my setup, I prefer absorption. I have even tried the BAD panels (both types) at first reflection and still preferred absorption.
I don't find room size a determining factor as much as the above and how far you're sitting from the diffuser if a QRD. You can get plenty far from a QRD for instance behidn a Magnepan, side wall reflections, high on the walls to help with slap and flutter, etc. Just not likely directly behind you.
I agree, it is distance from the QRD and not the size of the room.