I'd certainly recommend that you listen to various subs, Oswego, rather than just follow the dealer's recommendation. Velodyne's DD+ series, Paradigm's Signature subs (Sub 1, which Robert pictured above, and Sub 2), and JL Audio Fathom series are well known brands. If the footprint is an issue, there are in-wall subs that are reputed to do a creditable job, and this option might let you use multiple subs. There are certainly many other worthy contenders. Manuals, specs, and reviews should be posted online.
I don't understand what the dealer is saying about blending, vis-a-vis brands other than Aerial. Most high-end subs have both high and low pass filters, as previous posters have noted, and most have auto and manual EQ. Several audio gurus suggest using two subs, even two smaller ones, to even out room response. You may wish to look at reviews to ascertain not just the response of the subs but the power that they can bring to your large room. You might ask those forum participants who have such subs about their experiences and satisfaction relative to the size and nature of their rooms.
Best of luck, Oswego. You have fine equipment and merit an excellent audio experience in your room.
Cheerio,
Rich
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