For speakers I will keep, I will use tube connectors; however, I have a pair that I need to probably add a pair of binding posts to the external crossover, to make it more appealing to a potential buyer who may use spades. So, I've been thinking about this exact thing... "which low mass binding posts" (that also don't cost an annoying amount of money)?
I really like the Cardas Binding posts I've handled on speakers before (Merlin Music VSM) and they're used in my Ayre amps. They have a short version... Cardas copper --> Silver --> Rhodium plated. The posts are quite small and I've wondered about using my lathe to drill out the center of the post, so it can also accept a banana / tube connector and still accept a spade. I suppose I'd end up with bare copper for the banana connector that I would need to keep protected / cleaned. That could be a single option that is great for all connectors. Recently I found a pair on eBay for $60/pr. Highly recommended.
https://www.cardas.com/binding-postsNote the small size of the rhodium plated post. They could be drilled thru to make hollow:
HiFiCollective has a bunch of stuff as well. I've also found these two as possible contestants down the road... the others mentioned above I'm sure are good as well. I've also handled WBT on other speakers and they seem well made. Some note things like they don't plate with nickel prior to rhodium, and the AECO specifically mentions being "low mass". Which are the lowest mass of any of these, I'm not sure.
To connect them, I'd use the tube connector as the primary mount and mount a pair of binding posts as well. Inside the speaker, I'd solder the crossover to the tube connector, along with a jumper that goes from the tube connector solder point to the binding post solder point. I.e., the binding post will have the tube connector "in the way" / between it and the crossover, rather than the binding posts being in the way of the tube connector and the crossover. The tube connector will have the preferred path in the setup. I guess doing direct runs from the binding post to the same crossover solder point is fine as well. Whichever is easiest.
https://www.hificollective.co.uk/components/binding_posts.htmlhttps://www.hificollective.co.uk/binding-posts/aeco-binding-posts/abi-0611r-aeco-rhodium-plated-binding-posts.htmlI think these are only $15/pair!
https://www.hificollective.co.uk/connectors/binding_posts/eizz_binding_posts/ez301a-eizz-binding-posts.html