I subscribe to both Tidal and Qobuz. With my system (Node 2i, PS Audio Stellar Gain Cell/DAC, PS Audio M700 monoblocks and Magnepan .7s), I rarely hear a difference between Tidal's MQA and Qobuz's hi-res streams. Qobuz is my preference between the two, mainly because they have more of the music I want, but also because if I had Tidal only, I'd be locked into specific hardware to get that final unfolding of MQA, and I don't like to be hamstrung like that. I keep telling myself that I need to cancel Tidal, but there are occasions when they have music I want that Qobuz doesn't, so I haven't dropped them yet.
One other note, since you mentioned you're tired of songs disappearing from your Apple playlists - even with Tidal and Qobuz that happens from time to time as agreements over rights change or expire. It doesn't happen often, but it does happen. When it does, the song is still listed in the playlist, but it's grayed-out and either won't play, or it will only play a few seconds as a "sample."