I carried on testing with various combinations of bass management and crossover settings in JRiver and here's where I've ended up:
All EQ on the sub defeated and the built in crossover set to 199Hz.
Jriver -> output format -> set to 5.1 mixing to 2.1 when stereo sources are detected
Jriver -> output format -> subwoofer set to silent (crossover is managed in Room Correction)
Jriver -> room correction -> L and R set to cross over at 80Hz with bass copied to the sub
I then ran sweeps, let REW apply some filters and added them in Jriver. Sweeping after those filters were applied brought me to this:
This is sounding much, much better. There's less boominess, the devore on the walls blows in the breeze of a 20Hz test tone, individual bass notes are clear and individual now, and the bass seems more linear, probably because of the removal of that trough from 60 to 120Hz.
I'm pretty happy with that result. I still plan on buying a proper mic and doing full range. I also know that I'm really not getting the most out of the speakers and they need more space to breathe. I'm thinking of that as a free upgrade when we move into somewhere with a more suitable room.
Thanks for the assistance and comments so far. Now to stop tweaking and start enjoying!